tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-70978741082329812.post9073950568249423177..comments2023-10-24T03:56:56.095-04:00Comments on scarlet's submission: Bat Shit CrazyAnonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11586413894142517367noreply@blogger.comBlogger8125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-70978741082329812.post-56557484194785578272014-02-02T13:15:01.662-05:002014-02-02T13:15:01.662-05:00It did help a lot. i was able to post this and th...It did help a lot. i was able to post this and then focus on my homework for the rest of the day/evening and then not worry about it much until i got an update last night that she's staying for a few weeks in the hospital for treatment. eh. just feel like we've been here a hundred times before. glad to not be living it this time.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11586413894142517367noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-70978741082329812.post-34779021591470253802014-02-02T11:44:56.402-05:002014-02-02T11:44:56.402-05:00i don't blame you for not finishing it. Mothe...i don't blame you for not finishing it. Mother-daughter relationships can be complicated even when there's not extra drama. i'm sorry about your situation and glad that you have been able to heal your relationship. i don't think there's hope left for that for us. Thanks for the love. These responses meant a lot.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11586413894142517367noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-70978741082329812.post-3595066438095842082014-02-02T11:42:26.657-05:002014-02-02T11:42:26.657-05:00Thanks Bonnie!Thanks Bonnie!Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11586413894142517367noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-70978741082329812.post-52141740473525189152014-02-01T08:10:01.477-05:002014-02-01T08:10:01.477-05:00You cannot help somebody who is not willing to hel...You cannot help somebody who is not willing to help themselves. I know your mother's type well. I have a lot of batshit, narcissists in my family. I was never good enough for my mother either. It's only been in the past 5-10 years now that I realized that it is because she never felt good enough about herself either. <br />But she is not the narcissist, .. it's my brother. He has always been a pathalogical liar, a theif, & a pyscho. He has "attempted" suicide more times then I care to remember. For me, I stopped caring about him at least 20 years ago .. I am very fond of saying that once my parents go, he will cease to exist for me. The only time I ever have contact with him is on those rare occasions he comes home to "visit" or I answer the phone at my parents' place & it's him. <br />My poor parents though, they are who I feel really bad for. They have had to live with his drama, his tantrums, his bullshit, his lies, his thieving ways (I don't know how much he has stolen from them over the years .. thousands at least), and the suicide attempts. He is a drama queen, and he has hurt my parents more time that I can remember and way more than he can ever be forgiven for. <br />So, really Mickey, you are doing a great job, stepping out from your mother's shadow and not allowing her "drama" to inflict itself on your life & that of your families. Sure she is your mother, I get that, but again, if she cannot face up to her problems & take responsiblity for them .. she has nobody to blame but herself. <br />(((hugs)))<br /><br />Stay strong!!!!! geekie kittiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12922573531124805279noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-70978741082329812.post-626875502623604292014-02-01T01:36:04.452-05:002014-02-01T01:36:04.452-05:00I get it. I wish I didn't. I mean I didn't...I get it. I wish I didn't. I mean I didn't go through the exact same situation, not even close, it was still bad but just a different kind of bad. <br /><br />There is absolutely no reason for you to feel bad about anything. It sounds like you've gone above and beyond to try to keep a relationship going with her, and there's only so much you can do. <br /><br />I refuse to let my dads fuck ups effect my life, I did it for too long. He took my childhood but he will not take my life now. I don't regret the past 13ish years I have spent without him, not even a little. You want to know something else, when he dies I don't think I will care. How's that for harsh? I think a weight will be lifted and I will feel a little freer, because if he is dead I don't have to worry about him trying to see me again, or running into him when I least expect it, or have to hear what he did to land himself in prison again.<br /><br />Life isn't easy, the cards aren't always fair, but they are the cards you were dealt, there's no changing that. <br /><br />This feeling like you are in the wrong is a habit, and habits can be broken. When you feel this way, I suggest that you go look in the mirror and tell yourself that you have done "absolutely nothing wrong", scream it if you have to. <br /><br />There's one more thing, it is painful, I'm still working on it, but you have to forgive her. I know! It's hard! She will eat you inside out, without even being in your life, if you don't forgive. Like I said I'm still working on it, and there's times that I don't think it is possible but, it is possible. Just forgive one thing at a time. And just to be clear, that doesn't mean you have to let her back into your life.<br /><br />I could keep going all night but if you ever want to talk just send me an email.Mistyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07931554793023459482noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-70978741082329812.post-10078706870695119552014-01-31T21:34:41.413-05:002014-01-31T21:34:41.413-05:00Scarlet, I am so so sorry. I wish there was more t...Scarlet, I am so so sorry. I wish there was more to say but I hope that writing might have helped a little. Sometimes when people that we love are so toxic, you have no choice but to protect yourself and your children. It doesn't make it any easier to deal with though.<br /><br />Hugs to youlittle girlhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17239564937960323449noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-70978741082329812.post-63854537028054963372014-01-31T20:12:22.759-05:002014-01-31T20:12:22.759-05:00I won't lie, I couldn't read the whole thi...I won't lie, I couldn't read the whole thing, it was just too painful. But my mum and I never had a great relationship, she turned a blind eye to her boyfriend abusing me for over ten years. When she left him and finally admitted to it, we started to heal what was left of our relationship. She wouldn't have a daughter left if it wasn't for my friends. I don't know but I have an idea of how you might feel, and I'm sending you all my love through this little internet connection. xxDoehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15054751890104015353noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-70978741082329812.post-17355113056241915252014-01-31T16:22:45.080-05:002014-01-31T16:22:45.080-05:00Oh Scarlet, my heart aches for you. No words of wi...Oh Scarlet, my heart aches for you. No words of wisdom or advice, just sending BIG hugs to you. <br /><br />xo*Bonnie*https://www.blogger.com/profile/03562643762751888827noreply@blogger.com